Valentine Blues

I'm blog wouldn't be called Confessions of a Dramatic Nerd without any drama in my life or a friend's life.

My friend and I recently talked about him and his boyfriend's relationship. Looks like it seems like my friend is always walking on eggshells when it comes to interacting with his boyfriend. He said it's almost impossible to talk about anything serious in the fear that it'll cause them to fight and him being dumped. For a good chunk, he says he is happy, but when his boyfriend snaps at him out of the blue, it makes him feel like he's always doing something wrong. He said that sometimes it feels like his boyfriend doesn't always consider his feelings, whether it's something he tells him or something he does. My friend thinks he may be in love with him, but he's still unsure. They haven't been together that long, but in gay relationships going past 3 months almost seems like forever.

He's told me a great deal of how he's feeling and how it seems like the relationship may be ending, but he still wants to hold onto some hope and see this thing through. Valentines day didn't seem like it was anything special either. He didn't get anything, but he wasn't expecting anything...at least that's what he says. I know him well enough to know that he was hoping for something. At least something that says that his boyfriend cares for him. Since I'm playing neutral here, maybe his boyfriend doesn't believe in Valentines because it's mainly a hallmark holiday, but I understand how he feels. The gift doesn't have to big or much, it could be simple as telling the other person how you feel. That's what I would want....well unless he says, "it's over," then that would suck. At least it's something right and not having him hold on to something that isn't there. Who knows.

He asked me for advice and I just don't know what to tell him. In my experience, relationships are not always going to be easy and there will be doubts. I want to give him hope but lately I've been on the downside of my emotions, so I don't think I have room to give him any good advice. It's also hard to give advice when I don't take my own advice as well.

Maybe this low in his relationship will pass and things will get better. All I know is that I hope things work out the way they should.