I had dinner tonight with my friend Jimmie and we started discussing dating here in Seattle. He said 2 funny things about dating: 1. Dating in Seattle is like putting your hands into a bag full of scorpions...you never know who's going to sting you. 2. Dating in Seattle is like trying to find the smartest guy in the Special Olympics.
When he told me that I couldn't help but laugh my arse off. It made total sense. I haven't had the best dating track ever. I try to date older and they seem to be emotionally worst off than I am. I try to date younger and they seem way too immature. Then those who are in their "Peter Pan" phase, as Jimmie phrased it, who are slightly older, but just discovering the activities of single life for what seems like the first time. The funny thing is, it's just not here in Seattle. This happens with gay guys anywhere.
My friends Eric and his boyfriend Serg are totally the nicest and most genuine guys ever. It doesn't hurt that they are extremely good looking and modest about it for the most part. Those two found each other on a whim. I kind of wonder if I've just got too much bad karma in the relationship part of my life. Or maybe it's because I'm not in the Peter Pan phase of my life, but in the whole fantasy, love story phase that I haven't grew out of. You know what I'm talking about. It's the phase where you think that prince charming is out there waiting for you and he's going to come riding in a white house to come to your rescue. I just have to grow up a little and realize that that will never happen. Life isn't like a story book and my life can't be like my parents. My parents got married 3 days after they met and that's the only fantasy part of my life. I need to accept that and be more logical I guess. I always think with my heart and let that rule me.
I don't want to be a serial dater for the rest of my life. Sometimes it could be so frustrating when I see how love comes so easy for others. I encouraged my mother to start dating a little over a year after my father passed away. She was only out meeting guys for about 3 months before she met David, her boyfriend, and now they've been dating for almost a year. I joked with her one night that she needs to share her luck with love with my sister and I.
I'm still not going to give up on dating though. I just have to bring a ton of anti-venom stored in my medicine cabinet. LOL.
