Dating Equals Confusion

It's been a while since I've actually blogged, but I feel like it's about time. Especially since this topic has been bugging me since December.

My friends have been making fun of me because I've been this serial dater since 2009 began. Let's see I've been on dates with 4 different guys, which is usually the number of guys I go on dates with in a years time since 2005. For the most part, I chose to be single those 4 years because I was busy working and going to school. I do want to mention that I have tried getting into a relationship during my school years, but my busy schedule with school, work, soccer, and family obligations made it really difficult to date.

Anyways, it's time to go back on track here. Dating is so confusing to me. There are so many unspoken rules and games involved. For instance, if you get a phone number you shouldn't call the guy until 3 days later, so it doesn't seem like your desperate. Really? What if the guy things that your not interested or just an asshole for not calling. That's just one rule I can think about. I'm sure there are hundreds. Who comes up with these rules? I think it's stupid.

Don't you think dating would go much easier if people were just honest with each other? I would like to think that I'm an honest person, especially when it comes to dating. Heck, I'm pretty much an open book. The one thing I can't stand is the whole cat and mouse chase. Mostly all the guys I've met like to be the chased and don't like to do the chasing. It's like look at me, come chase me, but I don't want to chase you. Yes, it's nice to be chased, but at some point you're going to have to do a bit of chasing. For example, I may be too busy to call you for a few days, but that doesn't mean I'm not interested in you, I'm just busy. Heck you have a phone, why don't you text or call to check on me. Give me a break here.

The one thing I hate is a text message break ups. Why can't you be man enough to do it in person? Technology has really made people so stupid and impolite. Then again I can't be surprised, because there are people out there dating via text message, IM, and email these days. That's a topic for another day.

I'm really not bitter about dating. I'm just confused with the whole dating rituals. I don't get it. I'm also mentioning this because, if this last guy doesn't work out then I'm not dating for a while. I think I just need to take a step back and enjoy being single. I realized I haven't really done that in the past. I was always searching and I can admit that now. Geez, I think I just came up with my New Years Resolution. I know it's a little late, but I was never one to pick up on things quickly.